The following excerpt is
The Power of Aloha:
Pili Aloha: Mobilizing Your Heart's Aloha Power
Each of us yearns to be in relationship with certain special people who help us feel fulfilled, loved, complete. We're solitary creatures to be sure - yet, we're also social beings and sexual beings who hunger for human contact and enduring loving relationships of many kinds. We've seen in previous chapters how we can readily begin, through the haipule ceremony, to use our inner intent to manifest what we need in our lives financially. We know now that we have the power to influence the unfolding of our lives. How does this directly apply to our ability to draw to our hearts those for whom we yearn?
In the next section you're going to learn how to expand your belief and experience your intimate interconnectedness with those around you, and then learn a very powerful haipule ceremony for making mind-to-mind contact and attracting to you those you're yearning to meet and merge with heart to heart. We have the power to bring every person we need into our lives to enjoy a fulfilling and supportive circle of friends, loved ones and associates. The process of finding each other need not be a random, frustrating search. Our minds do touch the minds of like-minded people and attract them. We can draw to us exactly the right people to fulfill our fondest interpersonal dreams.
The Huna Approach to Love
One of the greatest discoveries of the ancient kahunas was that love works better than anything else as a tool for effective action. Jesus taught similarly. For the Huna masters, the first thing to consider in our desire to feel compassionate love for the world is always our love for ourselves. Your connection with yourself is the most basic relationship you have. If you are not in harmony with yourself, if you don't have a loving relationship with yourself, you will then feel lack in your relationship with others. How do we learn to have a more loving relationship with ourselves - how do we come to feel genuine love for our own being? When we look again at the word aloha, we gain the most important insight: alo means "to be with" and oha means "to feel joy, happiness, contentment, peace." Furthermore, Ha directly points us to our own breath experience in the present moment.
So the message of aloha is clear: We need to be here in the present moment in full awareness of our presence and to feel joy, happiness and contentment at the core of our being. When we have this feeling in our hearts, we are more effective at attracting complementary hearts that feel similarly. We mentioned early that we all have the ultimate power to choose what we're going to think, to choose how we're going to see the world around us and how we're going to see ourselves.
We've now come to the point where we can ask: Are we going to continue seeing the world as somehow imperfect? Are we going to continue judging ourselves as bad, inadequate, wrong, sinful, not-good-enough? Are we going to continue making ourselves suffer chronic mental anguish (guilt, fear, depression, anger, hatred) and even physical illness because we don't love ourselves just as we are?
When we choose to focus on our world and ourselves from the perspective of happiness and praise, we move into the state of aloha. When we choose to focus on ourselves and the world from the perspective of judgement and criticism, we drop out of the aloha experience and sink into what the Hawaiians call kehena - living hell.
Loving Ourselves - Loving the World
Realizing that we cause ourselves to suffer whenever we hold the belief that the world or we, ourselves, are somehow not good, of course we want to shift into seeing the world as good so that we can feel happiness in our hearts, rather than discontent. But how can we do this? First of all, as described earlier, spend time over the next days and weeks regularly catching yourself when you think a negative thought about someone or something out there, or about yourself, and pause to inquire as to whether that attitude about something being not-good serves you. If you realize that holding that attitude or emotional charge is hurting you, then choose to replace that prejudice with this simple reprogramming of the ku/lono mind:
By becoming your own best friend, you complete the essential first step in "finding each other." You find your true self, your true identity as one with Spirit, living in the reality of God's creation, which you now choose to perceive as good, loving, right and perfect.
This process of coming to love ourselves completely is a progressive experience. No one can demand an instant shift from habits loaded with guilt and judgment into full "I love myself just as I am" mode. Practiced diligently, the Huna way is a direct path to accomplishing the ultimate goal of becoming our own best friends so that we can then be true friends to others.
This excerpt was taken from The
Power of Aloha written by Kala H. Kos and John Selby. Though
this book is not in print yet in North America, if you are interested
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Copyright, Kala H. Kos, Ph.D. and John Selby, 1999.